Long time ago I used to wish somebody loved me. It was due to my relationship with my parents while growing up (long story). But with the years I learned we should give love without expecting anything in return, rather than living expecting to be loved. True love is about giving, not wanting. Yet we see so many people nowadays wanting to be loved instead of trying to give love. How cruel it can become!!
Then, for many years I used to hate being confused and not knowing what to do, yet in time I learned that confusion is the main element in learning. If we don’t have confusion, if we have a clear idea all the time, we will never learn anything new, and we will remain doing the same thing always, simply because we would be sure we know, so we wouldn’t question ourselves, and with it, learn something new…a new perspective.
Lately I am living in confusion because of many things happening at the same time, yet I accept now that confusion as a learning path, rather than a complication of life. Not that I love confusion, but I can understand it as just an aperture of the mind to new possibilities, which bring with it new concepts, which in turn I see it as growth. So it’s OK to be confused. Sure, it brings more mind work, but growing has always been painful in some way, isn’t it?
Raul
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