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Just a few weeks ago I learned about the term Masturdating. I don’t know for how long it has been around, but only about two or three weeks ago I heard of it when told of someone I know doing it.
At first I thought they were joking; Masturdating? What is that? I check the internet and found it is considered dating oneself. But dating in the sense of trying our best to impress ourselves; so it is going with the expenses and the time to treat oneself as our most high interest.
I can understand the concept, and even kind of agree with some of the reasons expert give to convince people to try it. But then my doubts, in a date many times the interest is to end up in bed having sex, and if in this case one is alone with oneself, and the name of the concept is called Masturdating, I guess is not too difficult to imagine what is the happy ending of this dating system.
Funny though, while watching some videos in YouTube, some people openly called the concept by its name, Masturdating, which makes me think, either they don’t realize what the name is insinuating, or they are open about masturbating themselves. Even if they skip that part at the end, people around will still think they do end up pleasuring themselves. And while some years ago you couldn’t say that word outloud, no matter the context, I think these days things haven’t changed that much when it comes to this, so it surprises me those people in YouTube with their openness, or ignorance!
But there’s more to it than the funny part, and the intention of deviating and dedicating all our attentions from someone else to ourselves. First of all, what happened with the traditional dating someone? It wasn’t just to have sex at the end, right? I mean, there was the talking; the learning about the other person; the laughter; the flirting; the pleasant tingling sensation in the stomach; nothing of that could occur while Masturdating, unless someone is so Narcissist that gets aroused with himself! So one very important part in the pleasure of dating is gone.
And then, in a date we suppose to concentrate our attention and actions on learning about the other person and trying our best to make the other person feel comfortable. But now it would be about giving all our attention and actions to please ourselves. There would be no learning, no understanding another perspective, no exercising ourselves in discovering on the fly what could we do that would be of the other person’s pleasure.
Sounds to me like becoming egoist!
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No time to give to someone else; no risking one’s heart in a possible deception; no risking our own failure to obtain from someone else what we want. I agree it is convenient, especially in today’s society where most people is too busy trying to put their game together to comply with modern standards of what is to be successful. But then, wouldn’t it imply a progressive separation from human relationships? Wouldn’t this practice create people who learn gradually to live more for themselves than for someone else?
I know Masturdating is just one activity in life, so it shouldn’t have a big influence in someone’s personality changes and adaptations. But the fact that is adopted by some people shows a hidden desire of receiving attentions, and the concept of Masturdating creates the excuse to stop trying to connect with others and gain their attention to us, to simply skip the whole courting process and just give oneself what seems to becoming too difficult for people to obtain from someone else. In other words, simplify and make it easier, with the assurance of obtaining the gain.
Now, it is said that practice makes perfect, or at least better; so considering that most people feels the need to mate at some point and for a while in their lives; if Masturdating becomes a trend among younger people; wouldn’t it prevent them from, by trial and error, learning the essentials about placing their attention to someone else, and then instead they will find themselves in relationships where they don’t know how to deal with each other?
At the other hand, many times it is necessary to have an obligation in order to do something. So what happen with the latest trend of younger people, especially boys, who are not so willing to date and get married, but just remain single and without any obligations toward a spouse or girlfriend in order to simplify their lives and don’t incur in responsibilities? So far they still had some pressure from customs that they “should” get involved with someone and enter the life of being a couple; but with this trend of Masturdating their lack of interest and desire of not getting into compromises and responsibilities becomes justified and acceptable!
As I mentioned before, I understand this trend is just one of many things in people’s lives, so its influence shouldn’t be of concern. But when a small element can simplify so much in someone’s life, could it become another element that helps pushing human relationships away of what it should be? Bringing with it another element of stress and dissatisfaction in people, when not meeting the expectations of their own instinctual behavior?
Just curious
Raul
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